Are you Planning for Failure?

Are you planning on failure in your relationship?

Do you often find yourself waiting for the "other shoe to drop"?

Does every disagreement feel like the beginning of the end?

Do you even find yourself daydreaming of scenarios where your man leaves you?

When you find yourself planning for the worst, it may feel like you are just being proactive.

You've been hurt before, so your mind is preparing itself for the possibility of being hurt again.

And- when you are constantly thinking about how your man could fail you - you are energetically projecting to him that he already has!

He can feel you closing off and pulling away - and he doesn't understand why.

He may even start to pull away too - which seems to valdate these thoughts!

When you catch yourself expecting failure from your man do this:

Drop your awareness down into your body.

Feel where you are holding tension.

What emotions come up for you?

Say them out loud - "I'm feeling afraid...." "I feel sad..."

And love those feelings!

"I love you part of me that feels afraid."

Giving some love and attention to your emotions makes you less likely to "act out" because of them.

You can be warm and open instead of shut down and distant.

Try it and let me know how it works for you.