Why The Weight Of You're Happiness Is Too Much For A Man To Bear

We hear it all the time from our friends, sisters, and even mothers.
”He just doesn’t make me happy.”
And - as the brilliant support team we are we ask “why?”

And - oh do they have they’re reasons.
They can recite for us a whole list of things he does that annoy them, and things he doesn’t do that he “should.”

So, we rally, we agree, we give our two cents.
”He’s a jerk!”
”He’s inconsiderate.”
”You deserve better!”

The one thing we don’t say is, perhaps the one thing we SHOULD say - “No one man can handle all of your needs all of the time.”

We need more than one stone to make a good foundation.

And - the corner stone of your happiness house has to be you!

You have to be your own biggest supporter.

And - you need other stones too - friends, family, a career that feels good, pets, volunteer work, hobbies, passions…. the list is endless!

When we look to a man to “make us happy” he can’t help but fail.

He can’t always be there when you want him to - and he can’t always be in the mood for what you need.

Men have a lot on their shoulders too, and they just won’t always be able to deliver what you need every time.

This doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy - or that he doesn’t care about you.

It just means he’s human - and he has moods and pressure just like anyone else.

So, what do you do when he can’t show up the way you want him to?

Find ways to fill your cup.

What are you passionate about?

What lights you up?

Spend time doing more things that are just for you.

Pushing him, and guilt trips will only build resentment.

You have to get used to being your own source of joy!

This will take the pressure off of him so he CAN step up.

Try it and let me know how it feels.